We are currently about 4 months from out wedding day. I have been a wedding planning machine. I love wedding planning, since it feeds my need to make lists and do lots of research, two things I LOVE to do. I think my wedding planning journey has been relatively calm and tame compared to some of the horror stories I have read or heard. So far we have not had any major hiccups. Here are a few things I have learned so far and I hope they can help you too!
This is important especially if you have a tight budget. Pricing can vary wildly. Ask questions, get multiple quotes, and look at reviews of your vendors on several sites. I joined a few Facebook wedding groups (like this one!) and they have been really helpful with finding vendors and verifying them with other brides that have used the services.
You will argue with your fiance…a lot
Nothing major, butif this is your first time around and your fiance is anything like mine and has no idea how much goes into the process, you will argue. Be reasonable, and remember that you love each other LOL. This is a great time to work on your problem solving and compromising skills as a couple.
People are going to ask you super personal and weird questions
This happens. I can’t tell you what will be asked, but it will be everything from, “Are you all waiting for your marrige night to do the deed?” to a random co-worker wanting to be invited to your wedding. Keep your answers short and light and keep it moving.
Stick to your budget
Figure out what it is and stick to it. There are a lot of budget and wedding planning sites and phone applications, so find one you like and use it
Figure out your non-negotiable’s
For us, our splurges were the photographer, an open bar, and flowers. These were things that are important to us for the memories of the day and the enjoyment of our guests. Everything else I was OK with not having the most expensive or the best of, and my fiance could care less about lol.
Buy Your dress for the size you are NOW
If you lose the weight, cool, if you don’t, your dress still fits, so great. Besides, your fiance proposed to you for a reason, and your weight wasn’t it.
Ask for help
Your friends and family are willing to help (most of the time) so take them up on it. You can’t do it all by yourself. Even if you can, having a second opinion is always good.
Enjoy the process!
This is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so stay in the moment and enjoy it! You will have so many good, bad, and amazing memories to look back on.